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Plate told me she didn't want anything from me anymore so I left her. She has now reinitiated contact after two weeks. More inside (self.asktrp)

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[–]RahLyt 238 points239 points  (1 child)

Ignore, she knows why you're ignoring her.

[–]Dive45 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This. If you respond, your dick will never go in her mouth again.

[–]scottandcoke 189 points190 points  (3 children)

Ignore. You'll gain nothing from responding.

[–]thechaosz 8 points9 points  (2 children)

Kind of text my on again off again ex would send me.

Always led to a text fight (I wasn't redpill then, just discovered).

The only times I got laid after that (when we were never dating again) was basically telling her to fuck right off and ignoring her. A few late nights came after that

[–]BruhMoment45886 180 points181 points  (2 children)

Lol she got upset that you were using her just for sex and she tried to make it look like she rejected you. But you handled that perfectly.

You could reply with a "you too", but you're better off just ignoring her all together.

[–]blackswan2whiteswan 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Upvote upvote upvote

[–]-ThePathIsTheGoal- 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This ^ her power play failed

[–]alphakari 74 points75 points  (2 children)

She acted like a cunt to try and manipulate you towards any number of circumstances she'd be satisfied with. You did the correct thing, and said fuck you're frame, option C, bitch. I'm out.

She doesn't regret what she wanted. She regrets that she went out like a cunt. She wants to feel like she was a good person in the end, and that's what this message is. It's not a claim she'll stop being a cunt. She sent you that for her benefit, and that benefit was she needed a way to quiet the voice inside telling her she's a cunt.

Now she can rest easy in her heart knowing she was a good person because she sent you well wishes.

Just treat it like a broken plate. Idk how she even contacted you if you blocked her.

[–]clickherebaby 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good eye

[–]i-am-the-prize 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Correct. This txt from her was about and for herself. Not for you / about you.

A different kind of txt would have stated:

“Hey. Sorry for being a bitch and inviting you over just to reject you. That was immature and it won’t happen again. I’d like to see you. “

That type of self reflection and Honesty (and willingness to be vulnerable) is rare in most people - and unicorn-like in the average modern woman.

Ergo- based on what she did send: ignore. She isn’t worth your time. And without a apology if you go back (even “just for sex”) you’ve sent the message setting that type of behavior “in-bounds”

[–][deleted] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Ignore

[–]Cancermaxxed 27 points28 points  (2 children)

What a cunt honestly. Mad respect for getting up and leaving. Not many would've done the same.

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    [–]SalesAficionado 25 points26 points  (0 children)

    ignore

    [–]HurricaneHugues 24 points25 points  (0 children)

    "What should I do here? Should I tell her why I'm ignoring her? Should I just not reply?"

    It's over dude. She knows very well why you don't talk to her anymore. It's just another shameless girl acting with no remorse. Her goal is to convince you that YOU are the bad guy for ignoring her, by making you doubt if you should've texted her in the first place. It's obviously working on you.

    Ignore her dude. Move on. Delete her number and text thread, and move on. Never get in contact with her again.

    [–]DeepC1980 38 points39 points  (2 children)

    If you blocked her, how are you seeing the text she sent you?

    I think you handled it well. Just ignore her, it's just a test. Don't give her any validation.

    Just move on to your other plates if you have any, otherwise get more (if you're not quarantined or locked down).

    [–]Pimpcool420 12 points13 points  (1 child)

    She probably switched to a different messaging platform, which is even more desperate.

    I have one like that, blocked her on 4 different channels at one point because she was calling my phone constantly when I was with friends.

    [–]SeasonedRP 18 points19 points  (0 children)

    Don't respond. She's trying to keep you around as an orbiter.

    [–]Tambamwham 15 points16 points  (3 children)

    This is about another guy.

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      [–]EqualFaithlessness 8 points9 points  (2 children)

      Ignore but I’m concerned why you’re even asking. Do you miss her?

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        [–]mrbill1234 8 points9 points  (0 children)

        Shit test. She lost.

        [–]RivenHalf 7 points8 points  (0 children)

        Bitch is crazy. Do not respond.

        [–]Chadster113 3 points4 points  (0 children)

        If you stick around expect this shit to happen continuously again and again.

        [–]alphabachelor 5 points6 points  (1 child)

        Always ignore.

        Alexander Grace breaks it down why this is the right move: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HuF4Ie4Zkrs

        [–]UltraMKProgram 4 points5 points  (0 children)

        Great job, bro. Here's what happened (from her point of view).

        You two have been operating as fun, casual friends with benefits. She calls you over and tries to bait you into a more serious dynamic.

        So she tells you "I can't do this anymore, let's just be friends." She was EXPECTING you to ask "why? what happened? how can we fix this?"

        And she would likely twist it to "you only hang out with me for sex. This isn't going anywhere...." and basically get you to start taking her on dates, hanging out sober, etc.

        But you didn't fall for it. You just left with no emotion. And that tore down her self esteem, because she knows if you really cared, you would've tried to fix it.

        And because you basically rejected her, she is now attracted to you even more, which is why she is reaching out 2 weeks later. You could keep banging her, but understand these tests will keep coming up in the future.

        Honestly, there's no wrong answer for you on ignoring or responding. Sounds like you have your head on straight. As long as you don't fall for her commitment traps you'll be fine*

        [–]theUnBannableHulk 30 points31 points  (8 children)

        Ignore.

        Until she begs and begs.

        Then “my place 8 o’clock “

        Then fuck her brains out and tell her if she ever pulls this shit again you’ll throw her on her her ass out your door

        [–]HurricaneHugues 24 points25 points  (6 children)

        Not worth the time and effort. It was his birthday. Have some self respect.

        [–]eddielovett 6 points7 points  (0 children)

        Nope. Why should he reward her with sex and attention after her blatant disrespect? Doing so would be desperate and shameful.

        [–]69odin420 2 points3 points  (0 children)

        blocking a plate is almost always unnecessary. Just shows that you don't have the restraint to refrain from texting her, which you should be able to easily do without blocking her. Also when girls find out that you blocked them it comes off as over dramatic and can ruin your future chances with the girl.

        [–]Senior Contributoradam-l 4 points5 points  (0 children)

        She's giving herself closure. Nothing for you to do here. Ignore.

        [–]second-last-mohican 11 points12 points  (2 children)

        Ignore, she wants attention and/or you to chase her so she can regect you.

        Could be a cunt and say, "who's this?" When she replies with her name, re-ghost.

        [–]HurricaneHugues 9 points10 points  (0 children)

        Waste of time. Just ignore.

        [–]Imperator_Red 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        Gay

        [–]Funtimesonly32 2 points3 points  (0 children)

        Ignore, or tell her you like fucking her and want to keep fucking her. Dont catch feels which seems like you already have...

        [–]IXseed 9 points10 points  (4 children)

        Feeler text. She was trying to gain the frame and define the relationship. You didn't let her. She got mad. Now she's trying to do the whole "get you to realize your mistake" game to come crawling back.

        If you wanna try and smash again invite her to your spot. Of not, ghost.

        [–]HurricaneHugues 23 points24 points  (1 child)

        "If you wanna try and smash again invite her to your spot."

        You people can't read a situation worth shit. OP just needs to move on.

        [–]WolfofAllStreetz 7 points8 points  (0 children)

        This. Don’t play her games.

        [–]IXseed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        Gonna leave my OP up and just backtrack. Forgot one MAJOR thing. You're presence is a present. The last thing you wanna do is give presents to women who are bitchy. So yea.

        Just ignore dem.

        [–]RabbidMan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        I wouldn't even call it ignoring. If you blocked her that means you're DONE. Move on. Dont entertain these silly games. Remember no reply is more punishing than a negative reply to these crazy thots.

        [–]ma-agentz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        Drop her the “Thx.” Bomb

        [–]Snowboard18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        She was trying to gain the power in the relationship or set you in her frame. She expected you to come chasing after her like most guys do, but you have some balls. I’d ignore like others have said.

        These are my favorite posts

        [–]georeddit2018 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        Shes probably searching for attention. Keep ignoring her.

        [–]IBETITALL420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        ignore the cunt what the fuck

        it sounds like a giant shit test, but the cunt always has options with so many fucking orbiters in this day and age

        move on, NEXT THE CUNT AND LIVE YOUR LIFE, FIND NEW PUSSY TF

        [–]nightdecoder 2 points3 points  (1 child)

        Old story same shit, sidebar is fucking useless..

        [–]vintageBiscuit 8 points9 points  (0 children)

        True, and sometimes shit like this helps to reassure and works as a good reminder to more people.

        [–]Carlo0mig 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        Ignore till she imitates contact again

        [–]AuberyBitoni 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        What do you mean, what should you do here? Ignore and move on with your life, this bitch is wasting your time.

        [–]Phontomz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        Don’t

        [–]huey764 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        Ignore

        [–]Protocol_Apollo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        That was good.

        Textbook even.

        Reward good behaviour. Punish bad behaviour.

        Most men would have sopped it through (on their own bday nonetheless!) and then soft nexted her.

        You did the right thing: you realised you weren’t having fun and left right then and there.

        [–]SoulRedemption 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        Ignore

        [–]bandraboyz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        Stop blocking people. Have a strong frame and control. She will contact you again soon. You'll have the choice to fuck or not.

        [–]when_its_too_late 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        If you ignore then ignore for real not to get something out of her

        [–]omega05 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        "Wow youre ignoring me now alright stay safe out there"

        Fuck you bitch.

        Ignore the bitch. She thinks she's taking the high road by sending you that message

        [–]Imperator_Red 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        Text back “cum over”

        She’ll either say yes and come fuck you, or she’ll say anything else besides yes, and then you can block her for good.

        [–]Both_Writer [score hidden]  (0 children)

        /u/arweavethis

        [–]RaufRumi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        I personally don't like to cut people off completely unless they are a net negative to my life. But what you did is ok as well. Either reply "thanks, you too" and end it there, or keep ignoring her. Ignoring her and forgetting about her is more preferable. What ever you do, don't give her the attention she is looking for.

        [–]Cvevea3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        who fucking cares bro stop asking ur lame ass questions

        [–]HowardJRoark -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

        you too is a good one

        [–]wanker7171 -1 points0 points  (1 child)

        Yikes, the oneitis here is strong. If a homeless person sent you this message would you be asking yourself “WHAT DO I DO?!”